Our trip to date:
July 6 – Spokane, WA
July 7 – Cabin 32 miles south of Big Timber, MT
July 8, 9 – Billings, MT
July 10, 11 – Yellowstone National Park, WY
July 12 – Casper, WY
July 13, 14 – Boulder, CO
I just realized I haven’t posted in earnest since Spokane, so I’m going to try to catch myself up from the cabin (which I promised a week ago) through Casper with this post, which means I’m not going to give everything from Billings to here nearly enough time or attention; on the other hand, this post is epic in proportion. In related news, nobody knows exactly how much beer is left in Colorado after we hit the bars on the 13th, but let me assure you, it is a noticeably smaller amount than existed before we arrived. Oskar Blues and Avery 4 lyfe.
Instead of writing a piece by piece description of everything that happened along the way, I’ll try to highlight some of what has really stood out for me and reflect a little bit upon the trip experience so far.
We’re only a bit over a week in, and I think both of us can already feel what I’ve taken to calling ‘trip exhaustion’ starting to set in. We’re on the move in a way I haven’t been in a good long time, up early and in bed relatively late, with little time to rest in between. We have a few major stress factors, like my driving experience, our money situation, and our plans for each night along the way, that certainly could have been alleviated with better planning (a.k.a it would have been impossible for us to prevent them). It’d be a fool at best who complained about spending their summer the way we are, but I’m tired – that’s all. I wouldn’t have it any other way but it’s already VERY apparent how important it is to frequently take some time to chill out, drink a quart of water, pound down a couple hundred calories, and live in the moment for a bit. To borrow the old cliche, it’s the little things that make all the difference in the world. The simple act of cleaning out and reorganizing the car has me feeling infinitely better about the road ahead than I did while it was still messy from camping for a few nights.
The other part of that trip exhaustion is the dawning realization that our budget and time limitations simply aren’t enough to do justice to the many places we’ve traveled to already and the many more we have to look forward to. We knew this going in; experiencing it is something else entirely. I find myself constantly having to reign in a very real sense of disappointment: I want to do the trip we set out to do, but every time we stop somewhere new, I want to stay there a bit longer. We’ve already cut a ton of stops, and it feels downright criminal to be looking forward to driving through Chicago or Minneapolis in a single day. That said, I’m constantly amazed at how much we’re managing to cram into a single day, and even more amazed at how much we’ve done this last week. Something that’s come up in Jeremy’s and my conversations has been the idea that these United States we live in are home to people living in VASTLY different places with VASTLY different needs. The sheer scope of the different experiences I’ve had so far makes it easy to remember that this summer is an opportunity to skim the surface of as many different places as possible, not an immersion or even a particularly great education in any single one.
Forgive me for waxing a little bit there; I’ll stay on task for the next few paragraphs.
We spent the first night outside of Washington at Jeremy’s family’s cabin south of Big Timber in Montana, and man oh man was it hard to drag myself away. It reminded me of my grandma’s house, except if her house had been in the middle of a beautiful valley, next to a rushing river, and far enough away from the neighbors so as never to be bothered by anything other than the occasional mosquito. We rolled in pretty late – 11:30 pm or so – so we slept in too, but I honestly couldn’t say where the rest of the morning went. A week or two there alone sounds entirely doable, doing a little bit of hiking but probably just a lot of reading and napping outside with the sound of the river to soothe my soul. I’m sure I’ve romanticized western Montana a little bit, but my experiences with Mariah at Flathead Lake and now at the cabin just stand out as some of the most peaceful and tranquil times I can remember.
All good things must end, of course, so off we were to Billings for more good things, where Jeremy’s uncle Mark and aunt Tina put us up while they, his uncle Dave, aunt Julie, and his cousins made sure we were well fed, well entertained, and ready to head off for the rest of the summer. I’ll throw Kristen, Ryan, and their wonderful children in Casper, Wyoming into the mix here too when I say that it was a real joy to share time with the Standish and Urbanec families on the way to Denver. Everyone I met along the way was just a thousand times more generous than they needed to be with their time, their money, their possessions, and their advice. More than anything, though, it says something that I never once felt out of place in Montana or Wyoming, even as the ex-Californian Seattlite with no ties other than my friendship with Jeremy. I didn’t know quite what to expect – obviously I didn’t think I was going to be excluded – but what I found certainly exceeded all expectations. Mark, Tina, Dave, Julie, James, Rosa, Arabella, Ryan, Kristen, Danica, and Alex: thanks for everything. There’s not enough words here to say it well enough, so I’ll stick to those simple ones.
Outside of three nights of simply wonderful company, a few other bullet points:
-Flying from Montana to Wyoming is not by itself particularly cool. Flying from Montana to Wyoming in a beautiful, ultrafast plane built from the ground up by two brothers, both of whom clearly know everything there is to know their baby, is REALLY cool. Shutting up and listening to them talk about what was going on mid flight was neat. What an unplanned for and welcome pleasure, even if I think I almost lost my mind when Dave put us into a dive without warning ;).
-Bayern continues to impress as far as Montana beers go. We did some solid work on a variety case while we were in Yellowstone, and their Dragon’s Breath in particular is a helluva beer.
-Wyoming from the reservation to Casper had a few bleak moments. I think the sign that read “Joebfnowhere, population 10” was the most bleak, though. It was posted next to the highway with about a house and a half in sight.
-Coming from Sunnyvale, CA, I clearly have no idea what a small town is. I definitely thought of Sunnyvale as being on the smaller side of things for a long time which couldn’t be further from the truth. 180,000 people in the South Bay is, uh, not a small town. It’s suburban, for sure, not necessarily urban/metropolitan, but as far as population goes, it’s an order of magnitude bigger than Casper or Billings. This realization has garnered no small amount of laughter and earned me some light to moderate mockery so far, which I’m fine with. A major reason I’m so happy to be on this trip is the Socratic realization that I just really don’t know dick all about life outside of major, coastal population centers.
As for the time spent in Yellowstone and Grand Teton, wow. We took about 600 pictures, I believe, so that ought to give you some idea of how much there was to take in. I’m usually rather philosophically opposed to picture taking, because I think it dramatically cheapens my ability to experience special moments in time, and also because sentimental bull shit like pictures of myself are not something I have historically valued very much. Maybe this trip is already changing that, or maybe I’ve changed a bit over the past few years, but I’ve had a lot of fun both in front of and behind the camera so far.
The parks themselves were awesome in the true OED sense of that word. I don’t have a whole lot of use for religion these days, and even less for the narrow concept of ‘God’ I was brought up with, but I only ever very briefly flirted with total rejection of any sort of higher power. Sitting next to Jenny Lake under the towering Tetons, watching the geysers at Yellowstone, standing a few hundred steps down the edge of a canyon across from the massive Lower Falls… there’s no way to describe that, for me, other than as a religious experience. It’s really clear that there are powers in this world far greater than us, that have been around for far longer and will be around far after we’re gone. The fact that we can explain our world better now than we could in days gone by is excellent, but it doesn’t change the fact that on a geological time scale, we’re really quite tiny. It helps to remember that from time to time, for me, because it really puts the day to day worries into perspective. While I was in Yellowstone, I didn’t think once about what the f— I’m going to do with my life when we get back from this road trip. It didn’t matter.
Let me know if you find anything particularly interesting or heinously boring. I’m still getting into the swing of things here, and trying to figure out exactly what I ought to be sharing. This post was way too long but c’est la vie. We’re driving through Nebraska, so I’m sure the Boulder post will be up soon. It’ll be a fun one.